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My Counselling Approach

Skillful conversation is my specialty.

Understanding you and your unique situation will be my goal in our very first consultation. You will know after just one visit if counselling with me is going to work for you.

My counselling style is to get to the heart of the matter quickly.

I’m skilled at knowing what paths to go down so that we can better solve your problems.  If you are really busy juggling your life, you will appreciate my gift for pointed questions blended with intelligent metaphor and humour.

On the other hand, if you are grieving a loss or otherwise just need to vent, I have a big heart and lots of patience. This is a safe and comfortable place to melt into the couch, blow your nose, and help yourself to my famous candy dish.

Clients have told me that I have the ability to listen with compassion and offer sharp insight…

“I really like it when you let me whine and then give me a piece of brilliant constructive feedback.”

Your goals are important to me and I’ll want to celebrate real results with you

  • Freedom from negative thinking and depression so that you feel better about your life
  • Relief from anxiety so you can feel calmer and more relaxed
  • Overcoming addictive behaviours
  • Improved communication and intimacy in your relationship
  • Recovery from infidelity whether you decide to stay or leave
  • Understanding negative experiences from your past and how they affect your life now
  • Finding balance in a 24/7 world
  • Parenting with mindfulness and finesse

When I work with you I will focus on your vision of a successful counselling experience.

I might ask you, “If you left here today feeling that you got your money’s worth, what would we have accomplished in this conversation?” I will stay focused on your agenda and work hard not to impose mine.

I am trained in a number of therapeutic approaches and committed to staying current by regularly attending professional development seminars on the most effective clinical applications in counselling.


Family Systems Theory
This theory of psychology proposes that our thinking and feeling develops from our patterns in connection with others. These patterns are formed through early family of origin experiences and we continue to reproduce them in our adult lives. At some point we may discover that these early experiences or coping strategies are causing us pain. This is when we might seek counselling. Therapy helps by exploring our unconscious patterns and developing more effective ways of coping.

The Gottman Method
In addition to my training as a family systems therapist, I love counselling couples using John & Julie Gottman’s research tested approach. We start with a powerful method of assessing your strengths and challenges as a couple. It’s always encouraging to begin therapy building on what’s already working! Then I will help you learn effective communication skills to address the challenges in your specific situation. For more information on the Gottman method visit the Gottman Institute website.

Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT)
Whether you are taking medication or not, MBCT is very effective in treating depression and anxiety. Learning how to pay attention to yourself in the present moment using simple mindfulness techniques can reduce your ruminating on negative and anxious thoughts. Mindfulness strategies will help you experience your thoughts and feelings with objectivity and compassion. You will feel calmer and more in control of your reactions in life.

More information at these pages, Learn to Meditate with Ruth and Guided Meditation CDs by Ruth

Counselling with the Enneagram System of Understanding Personality
Have you ever wondered why people see and experience life so differently? The Enneagram offers a fascinating way to understand people by describing 9 distinct personality types and their variations. Understanding personality and what motivates you and others around you can really help develop compassion in your relationships.